October 3, 2008
Celebrate a Marriage
Today, one of my friends / colleagues a WAHM is celebrating her 9th Anniversary. In congratulating her, I started having thoughts about marriage and about how great it is to be able to celebrate marriage and it triggereda discussion on her network. Then I had the thought to share it with the world. I thought that so many could be encouraged by it. Ok, there may be some that beg to differ. Since I have been married for 24 years to the same 1 man, I feel, I had the right.
Oh my friend is Kandice a WAHM and she have a network just for WAHM’s of Color. www.wahmsofcolor.ning.com
Read below for the discussion that was started on her network.
Wow! Seeing Kandice tweet and announcement that today is her 9thWedding Anniversary it started to trigger some thoughts within me. So I thought I would share them. That’s providing I can hold on to them long enough…Mind is just going and going and going with thoughts…
Well first it started me to look for something to congratulate Kandice for her GREAT accomplishment of still being married after 9 years.
Today and even yesterday, so many marriages do not make it through 2 years. Ok, I know there are some that don’t make through the 1st year or even the 1st 6 months. So for anyone to celebrate their marriage for 3 yrs, 4 yrs, 5 yrs and most certainly 9 yrs, have accomplished much.
Talk about success!
If you have been married for more than 2 years and you and husband are still together…even if you are not happy at the moment, consider yourself successful at marriage, even though you still have a long ways to go, that is SUCCESS 100%.
To get to the place of celebrating a Marriage, let me tell you. It’s alot of give and take, see and don’t see, hear and don’t hear, and always forgiving and FORGETTING. Yes! <b>FORGETTING</b>.
Most marriages don’t survive to celebrate another year of marriage, because someone supposedly forgave but did not FORGET! I would almost question the forgiveness also. However in order for you to be able to go forward and celebrate your marriage year after year after year, you HAVE to learn and do everything you can to forget some things. If you don’t, you will live out your marriage trying to get revenge, or holding it against your husband, or always bringing it up and nagging at your husband about it. As much as we like to nag. Men do not like nagging women and most definitely not a nagging wife.
I am speaking from 24 years of marriage of a 30 year relationship with my husband…Yes, I was 14 when I met David and he is the greatest…Yep, we do alot of see and don’t see, hearing and not hearing…Don’t get me wrong. We deal with our issues, but some things are not even worth the discussion….So if at anytime you can just let it go, Honey, LET IT GO. Your marriage is worth more than that situation. That issue will pass, be over and done and leave you alone. No one really wants to be alone.
So to continue to celebrate marriage year after year after year. Let things go. We all make mistakes. Women probably more than our husbands. Especially those of us who are Small Biz Owners and Entrepreneurs, think we got it going on and gonna let our husbands know that and half tail being a real wife to him…Ok, enough on that.
Celebrate Your Marriage every opportunity that you get. No matter what…You love your husband or you would not have married him…right? Of course I am right. Yeah, he gets on your nerves most times, no, he don’t always do it right…make more mistakes than most men you know, but he is yours and you chose him or God chose him for you. Make it work….Notice, I said MAKE it work.
Marriage is a ministry. Don’t throw in the towel at the smallest or at the biggest problem that arises. It will always past. We will talk more on this subject…Yes, I have alot to say…:))
It angers or disturbs me at how we and Strong Black Women, at least that is how we label ourselves and ..ok. that is going to be another discussion…I am going to stop right here.
Just wanted to encourage you all that are married. MAKE it a marriage to always be celebrated and especially on your anniversary.
Read my blog <b>Make it a Great Day</b> at <a href=”http://www.sisterssavingsisters.wordpress.com”>www.sisterssavingsisters.wordpress.com</a>
Everything that could happen to destroy your marriage, most likely will happen….but you don’t let anything or anybody destroy your marriage.
KEEP CELEBRATING YOUR MARRIAGE!
Charlene
RCIT
